May 7, 2009

My father constantly nags me!

Educate those around you!

Growing as a human being means that the scapholds of childhood and family often become limiting. You can either suppress and step back or understand the underlying dynamics.

You are growing, expanding and as you grow, the structures around you can feel limited. You feel that from you father but it could be anything or anyone.

What to do? Educate those around you about who you are and what you want to achieve. Simply tell them when you feel they are limiting you. No need to be rude or angry. You can say that in a gentle way... Turn to your dad and say: "Hey, do you realize that you are putting me down?"

He might wake up. If he does not get the message the first time, repeat it. Dont be afraid of saying it again and again every time you feel pressured.